Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Books Beside the Bed

When I go to my room and see books on the bedside table I know I am in  a good place.
There is something about having the book, or stack of books that comforts me. The idea
that I can wind down from a stressful day and get lost in someone else's words releases
the tension. I feel empowered by the words of others. It doesn’t seem to matter if it is the
next book club selection for one of the two books clubs I am a part of, or if it is the latest
best seller for business. Having a good book is like knowing your best friend will be beside
you know matter the circumstance. Having a good book sitting waiting is the perfect cap
on the end of the day.

I go back and forth between my kindle and paperback, hardcover books and audio books.
I rely heavily on the library for downloads and the hard to find books. Side note: every library
could use some extra funds it’s a great gift.

Sunday, January 14, 2018

SKOL VIkings...Just a game

Today is a big day in Minneapolis, we will wear purple and marching down the streets and through the skyways all
converging on US Bank Stadium for the Vikings play-off game.

The Minnesota Vikings will play New Orleans for an opportunity to go to Philadelphia to play the Eagles next Sunday. We will cheer, yell and dance when the Vikings score. It seems like a lot of
nonsense for people who don’t care about football. But for those that do, it’s a great
diversion from real life. We eat, we drink and we yell SKOL all in unison in the name
of fun and sport and the game. We don’t worry about the unanswered emails awaiting
us on Monday morning. We don’t think about the load of laundry that needs doing or
the bill that might need paying. We just cheer, we smile, we groan when the referee
makes what we perceive as the wrong call. Some forget this is just a game, for those
playing and working it is more than a game it is a job, but for most of us...it's just a game.
Along the sidelines and in the living rooms of all Vikings fans accept the diversion as fun. We will try to be good winners and good losers, we will try to make this game just a game. At the end of the
day for most of us, it is just a game and it’s good fun. Let’s remember that.

SKOL Vikings!

Saturday, January 13, 2018

After a While

Today is a good day to share a poem. Though there is controversy
about the author, I do love this piece.

After a While

After a while you learn
The subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't always mean security.

And you begin to learn
That kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises
And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes ahead
With the grace of a woman
Not the grief of a child

And you learn
To build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow's ground is
Too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way
Of falling down in mid flight

After a while you learn
That even sunshine burns if you get too much
So you plant your own garden
And decorate your own soul
Instead of waiting
For someone to bring you flowers

And you learn
That you really can endure
That you are really strong
And you really do have worth
And you learn and you learn
With every good bye you learn.

Thursday, January 11, 2018

The Yearly Exam

Today I will get my mammogram. Should be simple, should be the usual. No worries,
all is good. Come back in 2 years or whatever the current tend is. I go into these things
with the best of thoughts, sure all will be well. But one does pause to think about the
women who have all of these same feelings as I and then find out the devastating news
that there is something that is not right. They need to return for another mammo or an
ultrasound. For those women that have a family history of breast cancer, this has to be
terrifying.

So as I prepare for my every other year mammo, I prep with a shower and no deodorant,
I am grateful for a test that will give me peace of mind. It is not a pleasant test, but I am
grateful for technicians and docs that do this work. And I will have a sigh of relief when
it is all over including the results saying, all is fine, proceed with life as you wish!

Tuesday, January 9, 2018

After Work, the Struggle is Real

Where were you last night? Is that where you want to be?
I am not talking about physically, but maybe that is what instantly hit your brain. If you were in a place
that you physically don’t want to be that is another blog post. If it is not a safe place, contact me, it’s
time to get out.
Let’s talk about where you were mentally last night. After a full day of work, and a Monday at that,
you come home without a meal plan for the night. You pick the first thing that jumps out at you, a
handful of M&M’s that are in the candy dish, it goes downhill from there. The snacking doesn’t stop
until you decide you need something with some protein or at least something that feels like a meal.
The mindless eating continues and the wine turns into three glasses, the stress of the day lingering
like a dark cloud in your home. Tomorrow you get to do it all over again.

What if you had a meal plan and an exercise plan for after work, one that kept you from grabbing the
handful of unhealthy and plopping on the couch to catch up with the Facebook and Instagram photos
you feel compelled to sift through. What if you went for a 10 minute walk, turned on some music or a
podcast if that is what you like and began the process of putting together a meal that contains protein
and vegetables. Maybe snack on a healthy veggie as you do your prep work with a glass of sparkling
water. How would your night feel tonight? I suggest better. Today I will be mindful of unhealthy choices.
Today I will make a change for the better and for me that is by starting my evening off in a better place
than on the couch!

Monday, January 8, 2018

Tools For Safety

Yesterday one of my daughters, a friend of hers and I attend Stay Away Women’s
Self Defense at Minneapolis Krav Maga. This is something you hope you never
have to use. I took some classes for half a year a few years ago, at my husbands
urging. We learned techniques to stay safe in a sometimes scary world. It was a
good reminder to be cautious and use your voice, also if you gut tells you something
is probably not right, go with your gut. We were also reminded it is not ever your fault.
No matter what the circumstance, there is no reason whatsoever that you should
ever be assaulted, harassed or taking advantage of. Period.

Today, I remind you to be aware, be careful and take a class. You can thank me

later, living in fear can be crippling. Get the tools you need to go through life with
confidence, self defense is one of those tools.

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Changing a loved habit!

Coffee is my thing. I like it, I look forward to the morning so I can sit and sip as
I surf the web. I experiment with all sorts of coffee brands, usually coming back
to my favorite Caribou Coffee. Coffee is also my problem. As I move through my
day I often think I should have a cup of coffee, it will give me the pick me up I need,
making a pot at work gives me a break from what feels like a daunting task. If I am
at home it gives me the opportunity to leave the computer, an opportunity to walk
away from something, my diversion. It is not always a good thing, some would
call this ADD kicking in, I would call it a brain shut down. I just don’t want to
push through any further. The biggest problem with these afternoon coffee breaks
is not that I am stepping away from work, but that I am putting too much caffeine
into my body. Where this really becomes a problem is when I lay in bed for an hour
or more trying to get my mind to shut down.

Time to make a change! This change means more water, more tea and less caffeine
in the afternoons. Who’s with me on this one?

Change is hard, change is good.